It has been said that you are the hero of your story, and in every good story there is a 𝙫𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙖𝙞𝙣 for the hero to defeat.
Unfortunately, for most of us the villain is someone or something external.
❗ 𝗠𝘆 𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗲
❗ 𝗠𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗯𝗶𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻
❗ 𝗗𝗮𝗺𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗽 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗸𝗲𝘁
In all these examples we have identified who's to blame and how to react, usually badly.
We give ourselves permission to be a jerk because someone else wronged us. They are to blame for everything.
𝘽𝙪𝙩 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙬𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙣'𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙡𝙖𝙢𝙚?
𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙛 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙮𝙤𝙪?
How would that change how you see the world?
If your boss isn't an asshole, what does that mean about you?
If your wife is a bitch, maybe she's a mirror of how you are acting?
If you want to truly be the hero of your story, it starts by seeing that the real villain is you.
Its how you think.
Its how you act or react.
1️⃣ The first step to change is awareness.
2️⃣ The second is taking responsibility for everything in your life
🔹 your thoughts about people and things
🔹 your actions
🔹 your reactions
When you are ready to create a story that you can be proud of you will need to identify the real villain that needs defeating.